As promised…here is the second half of my update “Setting the Record Straight” . Since this will be quite the long update, I’ll keep this prelude short.

If you haven’t yet read: “Setting the Record Straight” , please do…it will help you understand what my goal is here…thank you…now for the main reason for this journal entry…
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Excerpt from Hanna's ( Kentucky and the other Assorted strangeness) Journal from Aug 17

" Alright, so as far as the "family life" is concerned, it all has been total hell, but you just gotta do what you gotta do I guess."


Response: I am a little confused about this one...I mean she is the one that wanted the divorce to begin with…
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Excerpt from Hanna's ( Such a pleasant fucking day) Journal from Sept 12

"I am already frustrated because of this whole divorce process. It's driving me up the walls. I woke up today 6 am and John comes to talk to me, wants to start splitting up items the first thing in the morning. He's already taken the fucking stereo, then claimed one of my bookshelves that I now had to trade into my computer desk. He's trying to tell me that he's not left with anything. He's left with fucking much more than I am, that's for sure. He can't even buy me out of this house right now. I'll have to wait god knows how long. Such a fucking pleasant start to the morning."


Response: Ok this is going to be a long one…

1. ”I woke up today 6 am”

It is true that after she woke up, about 6:30 AM, I walked into the computer room to talk to her. I was still awake since I work nights and for the two days prior I was unable to see her long enough to confirm that Wednesday morning we were going to go fill out the divorce papers and get them finalized. I also should add that Mr. and Mrs. Trees had gone to coffee with me and can confirm this.

I was a little disappointed that we couldn't sign the papers on Wednesday like we had planned due to her work asking her to come in on Wednesday, but I understood and agreed to go on Friday.


2. ”He's already taken the fucking stereo”

At that point she was very upset that I had removed two bookshelves and all of my books from the computer room. In my defense, I told her I was planning on doing that while she was gone so that it wasn't in her way. I also took the stereo that she hasn't used since we moved into the house. I had paid for it and in previous conversations she mentioned that I could keep it, so I took it from the computer room as well.

Likewise, I pointed out that it had taken the stereo...and I offered to let her have it. She said no and told me that she didn't use it. So to read: "He's already taken the fucking stereo" was a bit of a shock for me.


3. "then claimed one of my bookshelves that I now had to trade into my computer desk."

As far as this topic is concerned. When Hanna asked for a divorce I asked her to make a list of all of the things ($20 and up) that she wanted to keep. Thinking more along the lines of furniture and the like.

Here is the list that she provided me with:

The List
2 Bookshelves
Vacuum Cleaner or Shop Vac
Carpet Shampoo Machine
Computer
Monitor
Printer
Water Dragon and its tank
1 Cat
1 Computer Desk
All End Tables
Microwave
All plastic Containers
1 Set Cooking Set
All Plastic Mixing Bowls
Red Dishes
All lamps

Ok...now that her list is public knowledge, I want to point out that we have 5 bookshelves 2 made from pine and 3 with a cherry wood venire. The 2 pine ones Hanna bought. The other 3 were bought for us both as a Christmas present from my sister by way of a gift card. Hanna didn't want the 2 bookshelves that she bought, instead she told me, when I asked her about which shelves she wanted , that she wanted 2 of the cherry wood ones.

Please remember that before she left for Kentucky, I told her that I would be getting my things out of the “Blue Room” (the name we use for the computer room) like she had wanted. So I left her everything that was on her list as well as anything that we hadn’t “divided up” yet in the room for her.


4. "wants to start splitting up items the first thing in the morning.”

After our discussion about the stereo she decided that she wanted to go through and divide the rest of the items. I agreed, even though I was dead tired.

It wasn't my intention to start dividing the last of our possessions that morning. I was tired and just wanting to make sure that I knew if we were going to go sign the papers on Wednesday. Hanna is the one that brought up the division of things. I mentioned that I left her everything that she had on the list. She then said that she wasn't planning on taking either computer desk, both of which I had bought, and asked if she could have another bookshelf. I was tired and spoke my thoughts aloud.

I remember saying, "well, since you are not planning on taking one of the desks I guess I could give you one of the book shelves since I need a place to put the books." If that is forcing her to trade a desk that she said she didn't want....well, I guess I was the bad guy.


5. ”He's trying to tell me that he's not left with anything. He's left with fucking much more than I am, that's for sure.”

This is an interesting thing for Hanna to say…so I will expound on this in the context of the situation.

I was pleasant that morning and I remember telling her that she could have the printer even though she isn't entitled to it. It was a gift from my job for working for HP for 5 years. No money went to buy it. We have no other printer either. So I decided that she might need it more and agreed to let her have it. Just like the computer. The only computer that I own is the one she is using. The other one I have to return in three weeks when HP reclaims it, my projector, and both of my monitors. They are on loan from HP due to my job and as such HP can, and already has informed me that they want all of it back. The only other monitor that we have at our house is one that belongs to a friend of mine. I told Hanna that as long as he doesn't mind she can have it, assuming that he lets her, but I can't give her either of the other 2 since HP is reclaiming them and I never owned them.

The last thing I want to mention is that the phrase: "not left with anything" is her mantra. Ever since she brought up the divorce, she has been telling me that I am not letting her have anything. That she deserves to have everything. So, here is the list of things that I have agreed to let her have and the things that she has agreed to let me have....let's see who is getting shafted shall we?

What Hanna is Keeping
3 bookshelves: $50 each
Half of the DVDs (approx 20): $15 each
Chaise Lounge: $350
Coat Rack: $100
Shop Vac: $75
Carpet Shampoo Machine: $450
3 end tables: $40 each
Microwave: $100
Stainless Steel cooking set: $350
Stainless Steel Cooking Utensils: $200
Computer: $600
CD Wall Storage: $45
3 Lamps: $20 each
Floor Lamp: $40
Both Champaign Glasses given to us as a wedding present: $40
Water Dragon: $30
Water Dragon Tank: $80
3 Boxes of Christmas decorations: $100 each
3 Boxes of Home decor: $90 each
1 Papasan Chair: $75
1/2 of the book collection (approx 2 full book cases): $20 each
1 Kitty Litter Box: $15
All Baking Stuff: Approx $200
8 Board Games: Approx $20 each
Fur Comforter: $180
Antique Teddy Bear and swing: $150
Assortment of gems (semi-precious): approx $400
1 Cat (Miracle): approx $75
1 TV: $150
1 DVD Player: $200
1 VCR: $100
Dishes: $400
Marble Cutting board: $45
Knife Set: $45
Wall Decorations: $80

Total: $6,335

What John is Keeping
2 book shelves: $50 each
1 Hideaway computer desk: $75
1 large computer desk: $250
Vacuum: $350
Air Mattress $20
Small BBQ Charcoal Grill: $20
Fireplace set: $25
1 Papasan chair (Broken because of Hanna):$75
Half of the DVDs (approx 20): $15 each
1/2 of the book collection (approx 2 full book cases): $20 each
3 cats (Genesis, Snowflake, Cinder): approx $75 each
Dishes: $25
Utensils: $10
Wine Glass set: $30
Glass Set: $20
Cheese board: $15
8 Board Games: Approx $30 each
Assortment of gems (semi-precious): approx $300
2 litter boxes: $15 each
Wine Rack: $10
Countertop Wine Opener: $25
1 Cooking Set: $30
PS2: $150
Wind Chimes: $20
Door Sign: $10
Gothic Door Bell: $50
Gas Lawn Mower: $25
Push Mower: $80
Queen Size Bed and Box Spring: approx $200


Total: $2,905


The Difference in Hanna’s Favor: $3,430
The Difference in my Favor: -$3,430

So who is ending up with more?


6. ”He can't even buy me out of this house right now. I'll have to wait god knows how long.”

This phrase kind of sums up her issue…money…she wants more than I have…or at least that is my take on what she said.

I do, however, appreciate that Hanna agreed to allow me 3 years, not ”god knows how long” and a time frame that she set…not me, to come up with the $15,000 that she wants for her name on the deed of the house. She did reduce the amount she wanted from $20,000, which I appreciate.

Now before anyone starts to think: "He's taking her for a ride" I want to point out that I am loosing my job soon and still have financial aid to pay. I cannot get a Home Equity loan for a payout, especially since I am going to loose my job within the next 4 months, I was originally told that I was loosing my job by the end of August.

I also want to point out that from a legal standpoint, since Hanna has made no payments to the house (or any of the bills like phone, electricity, cable, water, gas, sewage, etc.) and didn't come up with any of the money we had to put down on the house (it was taken from my 401K) that she is entitled to 1/4 of the available equity, which is much less than 15,000.






I hope that explains things a little more and shows the complete picture and not just a shaded rant of it.

I am posting this not as any way to be mean...like the title says...just setting the record straight and keeping my name and image clean.

Now I know that I intended this to be the last of the “Setting the Record Straight” journals…but there is more and this ahs already become quite lengthy…so tomorrow I will post the final, or what I hope is anyway, entry in this sordid affair.

And believe me when I say, there is still more that many may not know…